teen dating violence

Teen Dating Violence is a pattern of abusive, aggressive and controlling behavior in a romantic relationship. These behaviors can take many forms and can include financial, physical, emotional and sexual abuse. The abuse usually increases and the violence worsens over time. Although many of these behaviors, such as extreme jealousy and possessiveness, are sometimes thought to be normal, don’t be fooled!

How to Help A Friend

If you know someone who may be in an abusive relationship, and who feels comfortable with talking to you, Tri-Valley Haven recommends:
Heed Warning Signs: Do any of the warning signs of teen dating violence listed here apply to your friend or family member? For example, is a partner extremely jealous, overwhelmingly demanding, or threatening violence?
Be a Good Listener: Simply listening to someone tell a personal story can be extremely supportive. Sometimes the best support you can provide is to listen without judgment or accusations about what they are experiencing
Get the Person Help: Let your friend know Tri-Valley Haven is here to help. Give them the 24-hour crisis line number where they can call and speak confidentially to a trained counselor anytime 1-800-884-8119.

Prevention Programs

TVH educates the community through supportive, informative and interactive programs. The Haven educates Tri-Valley middle and high school students on critically important violence prevention topics in a safe and age appropriate manner. Tri-Valley Haven Preventionists demonstrate bystander intervention methods as well as options to seek help. Haven staff work closely with local school districts to keep students safe. The Haven also provides community education to church groups, senior citizens, colleges, and local police.

If you are interested in having the Prevention Team visit your school, please contact our RCC Manager at michelle@trivalleyhaven.org or call 925-667-2305

While all relationships are unique, we consider healthy relationships to share positive qualities that are mutually beneficial to each partner.
Healthy partnerships are often based on:

Fulfillment: Your partner brings out the best in you and allows you to be yourself.

Communication: You and your partner can communicate openly without fear of being judged.

Personal Freedom: Neither person tries to control the other.

Acceptance and trust: Partners support and accept each other mutually for who they are, no matter the faults or strengths that each partner may possess.

Recognizing the abuse and putting a stop to it in a relationship can be difficult. Key warning signs of abusive behavior can include:

Extreme jealousy

Limiting your time with friends or family


Guilt Trips

Demanding sex or affection

Threats of physical violence


Unequal power balance

Crisis Calls

Pounds of Food Distributed

DV Bednights

Backpacks distributed

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Tri-Valley Haven Community Building:
3663 Pacific Avenue, Livermore, CA 94550

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Crisis Line:


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